How to Not Feel Let Down This Valentine’s Day
When I think of Valentine’s Day, I inevitably think of February 15. That’s the day that people come in to work or meet friends for coffee and talk about the events of the previous evening. Some excerpts I’ve heard in previous years include:
“We went to the beach and opened a gift basket filled with cookies and champagne.”
“I wasn’t too disappointed that we didn’t celebrate but I guess I just wanted an excuse to do something special together.”
“She totally forgot what day it was. We watched TV and ordered take out.”
The stories range from romantic to uneventful, from free-wheeling to kind of forced. When we think about it, the pressure we put on a single day of the year to commemorate all our feelings of love for another person (particularly through things like flowers and chocolate) seems a little silly. We are pretty much setting ourselves up for disappointment. Whether it’s an enjoyable excuse to go out, an anticipated opportunity to do something over the top or really, truly just another day, Valentine’s Day should be what each of us makes of it and nothing more. So whether you’re a hopeless romantic or just-not-a-candy-heart-kinda-person, here are a handful of ways we all can make the most out of this year’s Feb. 14… or any day for that matter.
- Don’t pile on the pressure.
- Focus on giving over getting.
- Give something that has unique meaning to the receiver
- Break the routine.
- Don’t just make it about your partner.
Originally posted by Dr. Lisa Firestone